I’ve seen mixed reviews on the jolly guy in recent years and I wanted to weigh in.

Talking about these characters looking for naughty and nice kids uses fear to encourage obedience in our children. We know that fear is motivating but does not create meaningful connection.

More effective parenting comes from connection with our children. Talking to them and understanding their needs. Setting boundaries that keep them safe and healthy.

To be clear: I am not saying we need to do away with these traditions entirely. He can be a part of your traditions without instilling fear.

There are so many things to do during the holiday season and they all seem fun.

You want to go to see the lights, your husband wants to visit with Santa, and your family wants to bake cookies. How will it all fit?

The truth is: it doesn’t have to.

We don’t have to do everything, every year to make the holidays special.

But…how do we decide what we want to do and what we are okay with missing?

Pull out your December calendar and let’s chat.